public notice to people who are probably not the people reading this

[spacebug]

Please stop insinuating that because I'm 30 and in a long term monogamous relationship that I should turn all my attention to how much I want to have a baby. I am not interested. This might change, and it might not. My uterus is not on anyone's timeline but mine, and I am not prepared to bring a kid into the world when I would resent all the time and focus it would take away from other things I want to accomplish.

If I decide to have a kid, I will let you all know, I promise. I'll have a little party and you can buy it clothes and guess what I might name it and everything. I might even decide to be terribly old fashioned, and, you know, get married first. Until then, kindly do me a favor and shut up.

Comments

[kp5781.livejournal.com]

What you don't have to have babies by the time you're 30? I must have read the "Guide to your 20's" manual wrong. :)

Having a baby when its not planned is very difficult. No one should feel like they EVER have to have kids. Thats just my opinion. Total life changer. I have had 5 nights off from being a mom in the last 11 months. Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining, just illustrating how different my life is now.

~people who think other people should have kids need to get their own life~

[windelina.livejournal.com]

Ooops - pregnancy is catching, didn't you know? Sorry to have exposed you.

(Of course, I waited till I was 38 to have a kid - so of COURSE I think you should totally have one right away now and get on it.)

[birdfigment.livejournal.com]

AMEN!

[rubin110.livejournal.com]

What about this time line?



Also...

[ilexcassine.livejournal.com]

Sigh. I feel your pain.

Expect it to get ten times worse if you do get married, at least for a couple of years. I'm glad my parents have given up their guilt trips about grandkids, but it took a while.

[sithlet.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad that both 433 and my siblings have chosen to reproduce. We're both adamantly anti-having-kids-of-our-own and perfectly content to be aunt and uncle. We've both also been very clear with our parents about our plans to NOT make babies. The pressure is kind of OFF, since his brother and sister-in-law have had two (boy + girl) and my brother and sister-in-law have had one and are planning another someday.

[sithlet.livejournal.com]

Good catch! Well, rather, a poorly worded sentence. 433's sibling and my sibling have both reproduced with their respective mates.

[spidertangle.livejournal.com]

ha! consider me in on your posting! i get SO sick of that. my brother has bred, both of matt's sisters have bred. and still, i get constant harassment about it from family, friends and strangers alike. and from matt, but then... he's got a right to ask it; the others don't.

[nicholay.livejournal.com]

Blargh! Those people need to mind their own beeswax.

A quick story:
My coworker just recently had his first child and I was asking him the other day how the baby was doing. He grinned ear to ear and said he was doing well, he loved being a dad, etc. etc. Then asked me: "so are you ever planning on having kids?" I said, "well, uh, no" and he said emphatically "GOOD!" I was confused at first by his reaction - did he think I'd make a bad mother or something? But he then went on to explain that NO ONE should have children unless they're absolutely certain that it's exactly what they want. Too many people have kids mainly because the think that's what you're supposed to do once you get married, and end up unhappy it or being bad parents or both.

So yeah. Rock on.

[r0ckc4ndy.livejournal.com]

I don't understand your premise.
Possibly not want kids?
Not want kids this instant?
Not want loud, stinky, needy little people who take up all your time and make you at least a little bit boring, and make everything you want to do just a little bit harder?
Huh. Weird.

[dangerdhotrod.livejournal.com]

oh sorry i won't ask you about when you are having a baby anymore.

but since you brought it up, when you are going to finally get married?











;)

[mrs-lovett.livejournal.com]

Geez. I really hope no one related to me said something annoying at the party. (Though I can think of a few people that are distantly related that probably would have.)

[spacebug.livejournal.com]

Oh, no, party was great. Honestly, most of the vent would go where it's needed if I shortened that beginning part up to "Dear Mom,".

[viksin.livejournal.com]

Oops! I forgot!


That's my standard response to such nosiness.