public notice to people who are probably not the people reading this

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Please stop insinuating that because I'm 30 and in a long term monogamous relationship that I should turn all my attention to how much I want to have a baby. I am not interested. This might change, and it might not. My uterus is not on anyone's timeline but mine, and I am not prepared to bring a kid into the world when I would resent all the time and focus it would take away from other things I want to accomplish.

If I decide to have a kid, I will let you all know, I promise. I'll have a little party and you can buy it clothes and guess what I might name it and everything. I might even decide to be terribly old fashioned, and, you know, get married first. Until then, kindly do me a favor and shut up.

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[nicholay.livejournal.com]

Blargh! Those people need to mind their own beeswax.

A quick story:
My coworker just recently had his first child and I was asking him the other day how the baby was doing. He grinned ear to ear and said he was doing well, he loved being a dad, etc. etc. Then asked me: "so are you ever planning on having kids?" I said, "well, uh, no" and he said emphatically "GOOD!" I was confused at first by his reaction - did he think I'd make a bad mother or something? But he then went on to explain that NO ONE should have children unless they're absolutely certain that it's exactly what they want. Too many people have kids mainly because the think that's what you're supposed to do once you get married, and end up unhappy it or being bad parents or both.

So yeah. Rock on.